Když ty nejsi ty - Jak a proč přenášíme na druhé svoje pocity – de Nennie Anita (2020)

The terms "transference" and "countertransference" are mainly known in the context of deep psychotherapy, where they refer to the fact that a client transfers feelings towards significant people in their life onto the therapist, and that the therapist responds to this transference in some way. The author of the book When You Are Not You emphasizes, however, that transference and countertransference play a role in all forms of communication, in various contexts – in family, in love, among friends, in the workplace, towards doctors or teachers, etc. When we transfer or project feelings we had, for example, towards our parents onto authority figures, we determine how these authorities will feel about us, evoke countertransference in them, and essentially corner them into our motives and needs. This can lead to conflicts, misunderstandings, and the revival of what happened in our lives long ago. The book explains the topic clearly, using common examples, and is accessible to both professionals and lay readers. It is probably the first publication that discusses how transference works in everyday human life, what to take away from it, and how to free oneself from it.